Since my last breakup, I vowed to change a couple of things about the way I dealt with love.
I'm just not going to run after anyone anymore. I'll show interest, offer companionship and perhaps a little romance, but I'll not go into overdrive unless someone is coming after me too. Therefore, if we go out on a date, I might call afterwards to say thanks and even offer another idea, but I'll leave it up to the woman to call me back if she is interested.
I'm also going to meet people as part of a group. I've been taken advantage of nore than once by a woman. From here on out, I'm not going to front 100% of the expenses of going out. I might go 60/40 but I'm just not going to cover all of the costs of tickets, activities, etc. I'm perfectly happy hiking or going biking. No need to take someone to big concerts for me to gave fun. I can just go by myself and meet people there. When I have done that, I have always had a great time.
So if I were going to put together a "10 Commandments of Dating" from these things, it would include:
1) You have to like yourself before anyone else will like you
2) A man should not have to pay all the costs of dating. A woman should offer to cover her share of expenses and perhaps even pay for things herself some of the time.
3) There is no point in running after anyone. If they are interested, they will slow down and let you catch up and will even turn around and come back to you if you fall too far behind.